Friday, March 19, 2010
In the category of "damned if you do," it turns out that involved dads "can hurt mom's self confidence":
Research published in Personal Relationships found that when a father spent a lot of solo time with his child and the mom perceived him to be a competent caregiver, the woman had a lower self-competence rating.
Setting aside the question whether "self-confidence" is actually as important a condition as our therapeutic culture assumes, the linked article virtually puts a gun to our head and forces us to ask a very un-PC question: Are wives who are quick to criticize their husbands on matters of child-rearing -- a fair number, according to the men I know -- compensating for their own post-modern "self confidence" issues? Suffice it to say that the professors who conducted the study did not apparently address that question, or even ask it.
CWCID: Glenn Reynolds.
It's hard to be a woman. Everything anyone does awakens guilt in you. Must be hellish. When you point out they are feeling guilty unnecessarily, they feel guilty about that.
It may be how they motivate themselves, but it still seems an unfortunate hand to be dealt. (Yes, I know I am generalising wildly.)