Monday, February 11, 2008
Thoughts on love and marriage
Cassandra is writing about sex again. Actually, it is mostly about marriage, and it is the best advice for people who are not yet married but suspect they may be one day that I have encountered in a long time. If you are one of my children, read the whole thing.
5 Comments:
By 
, at
Mon Feb 11, 01:00:00 PM:
Always worth hitting the link just to see that fabulous Elvren image she uses. As for sex and marriage and passion ... yeah, it's the other stuff that make the long term journey enjoyable.
By 
Cassandra, at
Mon Feb 11, 01:51:00 PM:
Cassandra is writing about sex again. Actually, it is mostly about marriage...
1. Ummm... you mean there is a difference? :p
2. *cough*
Are you trying to restart The Cycle of Violence? Because I worked all night again and all I have to say at this point is Bring. It. On.
By , at
Mon Feb 11, 02:55:00 PM:
I found Cass's piece insightful enough to want to pass it along to my two (still single) sons. Then I sobered up and realized neither would be the least bit interested in reading a discussion that is really more about marriage than about sex.
So then I forwarded a link to my sister, who has two marriageable daughters.
By Cardinalpark, at
Mon Feb 11, 03:29:00 PM:
Guys tend not to revisit their decisions terribly often -- make them and move on -- unless the prior one proves to be a really poor, even disastrous choice. I've found that my wife thinks about the same decision over and over again. For years.
Keeps me on my toes, I guess. As Cassandra points out, we are wired differently. At some point, I am certain I stopped being Prince Charming to my wife - at least as often I might have seemed at 20. I still do chase her, but with the other distractions and responsilities that come with age, we don't chase as much as we used to (who has the time? or the energy?). Neither of us do.
But i still do more than she does:) I will always be at the disadvantage that way.
Thankfully, she values the boring contributions I make to the partnership. And other stuff too I guess.
By Cassandra, at
Fri Feb 15, 06:34:00 PM:
At some point, I am certain I stopped being Prince Charming to my wife ...
Dang, you guys can be clueless, Cardinalpark :p
No, you didn't. I have been with my husband since 1978 and he is still Prince Charming to me. I do not know why this is, but we women continue to look at life through rose colored glasses. I don't think we could do a lot of the things we do in life, if this were not so.
Also, there is the indisputable fact that in many ways, a lot of you still *are* Prince Charming.
You know, we don't expect you all to be perfect. But the older one gets, the more one tends to appreciate the value of a good man. Just being on the Internet has made my own husband shine more brightly in my eyes than anything else could ever have done. I thought highly of him before I ever went online.
My opinion of him has been enhanced a thousandfold in the past four years, because I've had the opportunity to talk to (and read the thoughts of) more men than I ever thought possible. I've seen that there are a great many good, kind, strong and decent men in the world, and I've been greatly heartened by that. And I have to say that I have had days when I turned off my PC in fury and disgust at things I read or saw. I imagine your wife is no different, and knowing the quality of your intellect and character, you might be surprised. Sometimes we don't act on our feelings.
But they're there, all the same.
Cheers.
