Thursday, January 20, 2005
Better than medicine
Scientists have discovered that caressing a woman in a non-sexual way can lower her blood pressure as much as a dose of prescription drugs.
I don't get it.
The finding, however, only holds true for women. As for men, they might as well chill out on the sofa. Stroking has no perceptible effect on their blood pressure.
No wonder I don't get it.
6 Comments:
By 
, at
Thu Jan 20, 11:37:00 PM:
For obvious reasons, I immediately hear Clarence Carter's "Strokin'" in my head.
When I start makin´ love
I don´t just make love...
I be strokin´
That´s what I be doin´, huh
I be strokin´
I stroke it to the east
And I stroke it to the west
And I stroke it to the woman that I love the best
I be strokin´ Rob A.
(F?WF?)
By 
trejrco, at
Fri Jan 21, 06:45:00 AM:
I think men just need the remote and a beer or 7 (and for their wife to go out (with the kid(s), if applicable) and get a massage ... or just go out ... ;) )
/TJ
NIF
By , at
Fri Jan 21, 06:50:00 PM:
No wonder I don't get it....I have been trying mightly to hold back the Snark Monster all day Jack, but I have lost the battle :)
The article makes a lot of sense. Women are different. We take a lot longer to warm up, and we like to feel cherished. I can remember back when our boys were younger and I was exhausted all the time. Sometimes just having my husband take a few minutes to rub my shoulders or neck without feeling he "wanted anything" from me in return was enough sometimes to turn my attitude around 180 degrees at the end of the day.
If, on the other hand, I'd felt there were ulterior motives, it wouldn't have worked. But just being touched relaxed me and made me feel loved, and there is nothing more important than that to a woman.
Trust me on that one. And if you hope to get anywhere with a woman, she wants to feel loved and relaxed, first. It's the most important thing in the world to her, even if it isn't to you. It's how we communicate with our babies before they can talk, so it makes a lot of sense, to us.
And I'd argue that men may block it out at first or put up barriers, but you all like it too. You just don't like to admit it because you think it makes you look weak. I've seen it. There's not a man in the world who doesn't like a good back or neck rub or massage when he's tired (no, not THAT kind :).
- Cass
By TigerHawk, at
Fri Jan 21, 08:56:00 PM:
Cass, it appears some clarification is in order.
First, I was pandering like a banshee in this post. In fact, I didn't find the underlying article even the least bit surprising.
Second, I am overjoyed at the reaction that I got!:)
Third, I am all for the good shoulder rub, giving or receiving. I cannot imagine putting up a "barrier." However, I always want to "go second," so I have no obligation to reciprocate after I'm all relaxed. This is unfair, but it is my preference.
Fourth, after the week I've had (notice the cheesy little posts and the lack of commenting), I might even pay for it. Meaning a massage.
By , at
Sat Jan 22, 07:50:00 AM:
Well it was a sneaking suspicion that I was being hoodwinked that kept me from commenting for so long...
But I've had a migraine for 3 days and my judgement is always somewhat impaired under those conditions, so I couldn't hold out :)
By TigerHawk, at
Sat Jan 22, 08:08:00 AM:
A three day migraine? That is not good. Sounds like you need to go out and get yourself some of that non-sexual stroking. Or some drugs.
